Who are you?
At North East Counselling Services we deal with all sorts of issues, helping people to live their lives and not just exist. We hope you find this article useful and don’t forget to use the FREE Who Am I? download (Part 1 of a series of 4) to help you on your journey of self-discovery if you feel you have lost your way.
At NECS we find that a lot of people who come for counselling have forgotten who they really are? – they are so busy putting other people first they forget what the person inside is saying to them. That person who started off adult life with all of those ambitions, goals and dreams about where they would end up is now lost in a sea of other voices.
It’s common that we are so busy putting other people first that we forget what the person inside of you is saying. That person you are looking for, who started off adult life with all of those ambitions, goals and dreams about where they would end up is now lost in a sea of other voices.
- Does this feel like you?
- Have you lost yourself?
- Has your life changed, for whatever reason, and you feel lost?
- Your just not happy but don’t know why?
Lots of people reach a certain point in their life and realise that they aren’t the person they thought they would be at this age.
Or they might feel a general unhappiness with their life and not know why.
A life-changing event can really make you think about where and who you are, for example:
- the death of a loved one,
- becoming a carer,
- a big birthday,
- children leaving home,
- relationship breakdown,
- becoming a grandparent.
All of these have such a big impact on your life, you question inside what you have been doing all of these years.
Getting to know you
Once you know who you are, you can think about how you compare to the person you think you want to be. You might be surprised at how much you like the person you are.
Or you might not be happy with that person anymore and want to change – that’s not a problem either – at least you know what you want to be.
You might even find that you have different goals to the ones in your head.
All of these things help you find what shape hole you have and will help you decide how it needs to be filled.
Our team at North East Counselling Services have compiled a number of self-help exercises you might want to try to help you:
- think about who you are.
- think about who you expected to be.
- think about who you want to be and how you want to get there.
- and think about how you want to get there.
These self-help exercises aim to take you through some steps, sometimes used by counsellors, to help you discover yourself. If you follow the self-help exercises (4 int otal) we hope that you will be able to answer the questions stated above and start your new journey.
Remember, “Live your life, don’t just exist.”
If you need to talk to a counsellor about any of the above or issues that you feel you can’t tackle yourself then get in touch.
Please feel free to share this self-help guide if you know someone who needs help.