It’s just me being me. Part 3 of 4 self-discovery guides from North East Counselling Services

I can’t change – can I?

NECS have compiled a number of self-help exercises for you to use to help you discover who you are. At NECS we use similar self-discovery tools to help individuals evaluate how they feel and to map their own progress. This is part 3 of 4, It’s just being me (Part 1 is entitled Who Am I? and Part 2 is Where Is Your Life Now?).

It’s all about Sel-Discovery…

The following poem is used by lots of counsellors to help their clients to understand how counselling works. It’s by Portia Nelson, and it’s called: There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery.

“I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in.  I am lost… I am helpless.

It isn’t my fault.

It takes forever to find a way out.

 

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again.

I can’t believe I am in the same place.

But, it isn’t my fault.

It still takes me a long time to get out.

 

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there. I still fall in. It’s a habit.

My eyes are open. I know where I am.

It is my fault. I get out immediately.

 

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

I walk down another street.”

 

Can you change?

You may think that the way you do things is set in stone, however, you don’t realise this is the way you do things normally, as an automatic reaction to an event.

You just aren’t aware of the reaction you have.

Counsellors will help you explore the difficulty you are having and help you understand the way you are reacting to a particular situation.  Furthermore, if the way you react is causing you or someone else to be upset then knowing what you are doing can help you to change it.

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If you feel you need to talk please get in touch with our team at North East Counselling Services.